If you’ve just gotten back into the dating scene, you may have noticed that dating ain’t what it used to be. It’s certainly become more technological driven and somewhat detached as late night phone calls are replaced with short, snappy and unemotional text messages – you can really gauge a person by their grammar and use of acronyms in a text. With all these digital shortcuts, you need to put in the extra work to get to know a person better. Want to know the way to do that? A first date; none of this lets hang out with a group of friends and see where the night takes us date, a real grown up date where you wine, dine and figure out if there’s some chemistry. I get your hesitation, leaping into anything for the first time can be daunting and first dates are no exception. You only ever get one first date with a person, one shot that can either open or shut the door to a second date. A first date is your time to shine and make a great first impression; the potential to connect with someone and begin to know them can be thrilling and at the same time anxiety provoking. Obviously, there are some common sense things you should do to ensure the night goes smoothly, here are just a few.
Don’t be late
There are understandably times when you can’t help but be late for a first date, however tardiness will essentially set the tone for the rest of the date and it can set you up for failure. Showing up late tells your date that you don’t think they are a priority and imparts a lot about your time management skills and consideration for others. If there is some unfortunate reason why you will be late, make sure you call them in advance to let them know that you are on your way.
Dress to impress
I don’t like to quote Carrie Bradshaw , but she did make a good point when she said first dates are like job interviews with cocktails. It’s not about wearing clothes to impress the other person, it’s about wearing your favourite outfit and scents like perfume, cologne or even lynx deodorant to feel bold and confident. When you feel fabulous, you radiate fabulousness and your date will be able pick up on this.
You know how your parents always taught you to say please and thank you? Well this always applies in dating as well as everywhere else. If you’re date pays you a compliment, don’t shy away from it, embrace it. Even at the end of night, a little gratitude goes a long way when you thank your date for the lovely evening. For some women (myself included) a deal breaker during a first date is how polite you are to the wait staff. Treating your attendant like a second class citizen is a no go zone; you may think you’re being impressive, but you only come across as self-important.
Phones In Bag Policy
Checking your text messages, posting to Facebook or answering a call while you are on a first date indicates that you have something better you’d like to be doing. Before you get to your date, turn your phone to silent and put it out of sight.
Be Your Awesome Self
One of the most underrated and difficult things you can do on a date is to be yourself. This person has obviously agreed to go out with you for a reason, so don’t let nerves stop you from enjoying the night and having fun.
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